Family well-being checklist

Do you want to have a great family life? If your answer is “Yes”, I strongly recommend you time to time to have a deep discussion with your partner about six areas of your couple / family life. Use this simple test as an invitation for evaluation and good deep talk. This is a tool for understanding, acceptance, gratitude, improvement and growth.


Start from checking the vital sings of family well-being: stability, diversity, significance, love / connection/ intimacy, growth, and contribution.


Please use the linear scale from 0 to 10 and follow the instructions:


1. Make a definition of each notion. Discuss it with each other. Debate if needed, but come to the common ground of mutual understanding and agreement.

2. Evaluate the contribution in each area using a scale from 0 to 10 (zero meaning “none” and 10 being “excellent”). Give an explanation why you have chosen this particular number.

3. Write down what doesn’t work, what is missing and what can be improved.

4. Talk honestly about the ways how both partners can improve the level of contribution. Create a plan and establish a deadline for this effort and work.


Another thing to consider in your evaluation is how much both of you have improved personally? How well developed are the most significant personality traits that help enormously in sustaining family well-being and making considerable contribution to it?


Reliability, responsibility, ability to empathise, tolerance, flexibility, and confidence - all make good family life possible.


Please use the wheel with the scale from 0 to 10 and follow the instructions:


1. Make a definition of each notion. How well do you understand it? What are your ways of measuring these traits?

2. Evaluate the level of development and manifestation of each trait using a scale from 0 to 10 (zero meaning “none” and 10 being “excellent”). Give an explanation why you have chosen this particular number. Check it with you partner: is that how she/ he is seeing it too?

3. Write down what can be improved.

4. Talk honestly about the ways how both partners can improve these traits of contribution. Create a plan and establish a deadline for this effort and work.


Please, take into consideration: whether it’s emotional, physical or relational mastery you seek, unless you decide and do something about it, nothing will change. I wish you all the best in your journey!


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